We help sensitive, neurodivergent humans aged 11-25 reconnect with their voice, confidence, and joy — so they stop masking, shrinking, and second-guessing themselves, and start showing up, speaking up, and falling in love with who they are.

About

Grounded Butterflies…

Grounded Butterflies is a Therapeutic Mentoring service for young people aged 11-25 who self-identify as Neurodivergent and/or Super Sensitive, or any young person who believes:

  • they have to mask and hide who they truly are to fit in

  • if they are their true selves they will be rejected and have no friends

  • they must be liked and achieve to feel okay

  • looking after themselves and living out their dreams is unrealistic

And feels:

  • overwhelmed by life

  • unsure of who they are

  • afraid to trust themselves

  • scared of speaking up, asserting themselves, and expressing their true selves

  • like they have to play small or squash their dreams

We use a range of fun therapeutic tools and activities (selected and tailored to your individual needs and preferences) to help you to believe:

  • You matter. Your feelings, beliefs, wants, and desires, matter GREATLY

  • You have the power within you to know what these are, to express them, and to choose healthy ways to meet and pursue them

  • You are awesome and incredible just the way you are

  • You are worthy of respect and love

  • You are capable of looking after yourself and living out your dreams

    And feel:

  • safe, peaceful, and content on Earth

  • Confident and sure of yourself and your choices

  • comfortable in your own skin

  • Empowered to speak your truth, assert yourself, say no and stick to it, and be yourself, even in the face of others’ disapproval and disagreement

  • Proud of who you are

About me…

Part 1

Hi, I’m Sabrina.

I am Neurodivergent, and Super Sensitive.

I am in recovery from complex post-traumatic stress disorder and addiction.

All my life, I lived with a crippling fear of being seen.

I thought I did not belong in the world as I am.

I thought that safety and survival required me to hide myself so I could fit in.

I suppressed my true needs, feelings, wants, and desires, because I thought they made me unacceptable.

These beliefs paved the way for traumatic experiences and increased the overwhelming feelings of shame I already felt.

I covered all this up with people-pleasing, caretaking, and fawning behaviours, and numbing feelings through drinking and taking drugs.

I found my way into rehab just before my 27th birthday.

Coming out of rehab, I felt lost and alone.

My long term partner suddenly ended our relationship.

I became obsessed with suicide. I was in the darkest place I had ever been in.

I realised I had not been myself for as long as I could remember.

Somewhere within me, there was a spirit and a big heart that was desperate to heal;

to be found, to be heard, to be seen, to be accepted, to be held, to be loved, and to be expressed.

I started listening to their calls.

I spent lots of time walking in nature. I started attending yoga classes and dance workshops.

I attended courses online and in my local area on consent and personal boundaries; people-pleasing recovery; self-worth and play.

I found community. I started journalling. I reconnected with childlike past times like writing stories, drawing, and dancing.

I restarted playing the piano. I started writing and performing my own songs, raps, and poems, seeking out opportunities to be seen and heard, and to express myself.

I faced a lot of feelings and fears. It’s been a scary but endlessly rewarding journey.

I started saying yes to what lit me up, and no to environments and relationships where I felt unseen or undervalued.

I trusted myself to make the decision to drop out of a sought-after PhD in Law at the University of Oxford that many around me thought I was crazy not to pursue. Despite the prestige, I admitted it was not lighting up or feeding my soul.

My life today is full of autonomy, self-love, authentic expression, and joy.

I created Grounded Butterflies so I could be the Therapeutic Mentor I needed for teens and young people suffering from the same

self-doubts and fears of rejection that I did,

so that they can be supported to find alternative coping strategies to people-pleasing, drinking and taking drugs

by one who knows and has felt the sticky, sad, dangerous, and traumatic ends these strategies can lead to,

so that they can:

  • learn to love themselves, speak up, and realise how awesome they are,

  • approach life with self-confidence, self-belief, and a deep knowledge of and respect for who they are,

  • live a life full of freedom, empowerment, and joy,

  • feel comfortable in their own skin, embracing, being, and expressing who they are from a young age.